Hashem declares his love for Avrohom Avinu because “that he may command his children and his household after him, that they may keep the way of Hashem, to do righteousness and justice” (Breishis 18:19). Avrohom educates his children to worship Hashem because that is the only way his children and grandchildren will follow in his footsteps. In a world full of idolatry and paganism, how did Avrohom raise his children so that they would follow in his path? What was his secret of Jewish continuity?
There are three ways to educate your children:
1) Send them to yeshiva where they will learn Jewish texts and traditions, and will be immersed in a Jewish lifestyle. This is crucial to success as a Jew in this world but it is not enough. Children also need to learn from their parents. This can be done in two ways.
2) Teach them directly. Learn Torah with them; daven with them; do mitzvos with them. Guide them in the path of Hashem, helping them grow in their actions and understanding.
Every child is different. You cannot work with each of your children in the same way because they will respond differently. You need to discuss with an educator or rav how to reach each child. What is this child’s nature and how do you work with him to achieve his potential as an oved Hashem?
3) Serve as a role model for your children. Make sure your kids observe your worthy behaviors and look up at you. They will see your honesty and depth of personality, and will want to grow up to be like you. Set an example of Sholom Bayis by showing respect to your spouse at all times, even under stress. Your children will see the beauty of a Jewish home in contrast to the street. Daven nicely; remain silent during Krias HaTorah; show respect for Talmidei Chachomim; learn Torah every day; show care with other people’s money; act respectfully and respectably. By modeling an honorable Torah life, your children will naturally follow your path.
Having trouble incorporating these principles into your life? Contact Igud HaRabbonim and an experienced rav will discuss with you how to enhance the chinuch you are giving to your children. No one is born a tzadik. Everyone has room for growth. Contact the office and a rav will discuss with you how you can become a better parent and transmit the Mesorah to another generation.